Okay, so I give up on older men and having relationships with them. You would think that by being with an older man everything would be easier but let me tell you no, it's not...in fact I think it kinda sucks.
I always figured, hey he's older, he's ready to settle down into a serious relationship, has his own place, is more mature, has a stable job (therefore can pay for dinner lol) etc etc. Yet it really is not like that.
People tell me I'm quite mature for my age and that I have a good head on my shoulders, so I know that the reason why it's not working with an older man is not because I'm not "mature enough". In fact all my friends here in Paris are older than me, 25 and up (with a few that are closer to my age).
Dating somebody older than me, I kind of found it, I guess "cool" (I am using this word as cliche and high school as it sounds, only because I can't come up with another word hehe) that I was dating an older man...6 years older. I don't know why and I can't explain it, but it made me feel so grown up and "cool". Hey, I'm dating a 26 year old and yes I'm 19.
But once again, my experience is not living up to my expectations. Dating an older man is not as easy as I thought or as "cool". Let me start with work... He works 9am-5pm monday through friday, so that leaves only the weekends to see each other because I finish work at 9pm. Yes we could still see each other afterwards, but you know sometimes, after the end of your day you just want to be in your bed and do nothing. Plus we need to take public transportation to see each other, and with this cold it really makes you think twice about going out hehe.
Then there is the fact that we're not at the same relationship "stage", I guess that's what you can call it. By stage I mean what kind of relationship you have. I figured that our relationship would be more mature and I guess in it's own way it is...but now I realize that "mature" and "grown up" is boring. Dating an older man does not give you the same relationship you would get with someone who is your age or is maximum 2 years older than you. I find when you're younger you can't stop texting each other all the time and want to see each other every day. No, he's a grown up man and too old for that, but I'm still at that stage where I want to text all day and hang out with the person as much as possible.
Then there's the "going out" energy level. Yes, 26 is still young but apparently there is an energy level difference between 19 and 26 (don't let anybody tell you otherwise. After all they are quite close to their 30's). They don't want to go out as much as a 19 year old because well, they've already gone out in their days, they've already had their party days. I'm not saying they don't go out, they do, but not to the same extreme as us, the people at the other side of the 20's.
You might think, well it's just one guy that doesn't mean it's like that with all of them... and I agree with you. Everybody is different and maybe I haven't met the right "older man" to have a relationship with BUT let me tell you he's not the first older man I dated. I had something with a 24 year old (I was 18 at the time) and even though it didn't last long/was complicated and even though it was such a mistake/waste of time (it's in my "Biggest mistakes" list, yes I have a list. Who doesn't?A short one of course), it was pretty much the same thing. He didn't drink, he didn't party hard etc etc. In a few words to sum it up, they don't have the same youth haha.
So ladies, if you're dying to date an older man, let me tell you it's not that great. Maybe you found an amazing guy and good for you! I'm glad you did and can prove me wrong, but for the rest of the girls well don't build your expectations. Every relationship is different and age clearly is a factor. Gentlemen, older men, there is only one thing to say : Take her out, please! Kay? thanks!
p.s: just realized that you might think I'm terrible at math because I'm 19 and he's 26 which technically makes that a 7 year difference BUT he just turned 26 in December and I'm turning 20 in April, so we'll just keep it at 6.
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